...I feel like crap tonight. And Cameron isn't feeling too hot either with the fact that his parents obviously don't have the slightest idea about his integrity or his strength in the church.
I'm speaking on behalf of Ashley when she says her in-laws are great!
However, we are feeling for you and Cameron both right now. I think that is an extremely difficult situation for you.
T-Rex says Raaaarrrrrh.....In my opinion, Cameron is in no way going against the LDS church or his faith in not having an LDS bishop marry you. In the Church's view, this is the same as Grandpa marrying us (he was not a Bishop).
We also know that you would never try to lead Cameron away from his faith. It is what makes him who he is and that is the person that you love. That someone would make such an assumption is esoteric. You are better than that and we all know it and I'm sure if his parents are open to you, they'll learn that too. Besides, if Cameron were to convert to anything, it would be Free Radicalism and that's not half bad.
Now, back to your question about terrible in-laws.... I think you have a very unique and difficult situation because of religious differences in your relationship. You and Cameron have been mature and have considered this from many angles--in the end you love each other and will overcome the difficulties associated with that while respecting and loving the differences. As with many LDS parents, it may take a long time for them to be more comfortable with this and they may not ever be completely comfortable with it. There are many deeply ingrained social norms that they are dealing with. I don't necessarily think his Cameron's parents have a lack of respect for you. Rather, I'm sure that they are just struggling with this (which is expected) but are good people at heart.
Having said that, it does not excuse inappropriate or hurtful behavior. Ashley's family, especially her mother, was kind of rude to me for the first while of our relationship. One of the best things that happened was when Ashley sat down with them both and in a polite but firm fashion told them that some of their actions towards me were inappropriate and would not be tolerated. She got the cold shoulder for a while but in the end, things became much better. Perhaps both of you should sit down with them (or write a short letter) expressing how much they hurt you both and asserting the strength of your relationship and that hurtful things will not be tolerated.
I'm speaking on behalf of Ashley when she says her in-laws are great!
ReplyDeleteHowever, we are feeling for you and Cameron both right now. I think that is an extremely difficult situation for you.
T-Rex says Raaaarrrrrh.....In my opinion, Cameron is in no way going against the LDS church or his faith in not having an LDS bishop marry you. In the Church's view, this is the same as Grandpa marrying us (he was not a Bishop).
We also know that you would never try to lead Cameron away from his faith. It is what makes him who he is and that is the person that you love. That someone would make such an assumption is esoteric. You are better than that and we all know it and I'm sure if his parents are open to you, they'll learn that too. Besides, if Cameron were to convert to anything, it would be Free Radicalism and that's not half bad.
Now, back to your question about terrible in-laws.... I think you have a very unique and difficult situation because of religious differences in your relationship. You and Cameron have been mature and have considered this from many angles--in the end you love each other and will overcome the difficulties associated with that while respecting and loving the differences. As with many LDS parents, it may take a long time for them to be more comfortable with this and they may not ever be completely comfortable with it. There are many deeply ingrained social norms that they are dealing with. I don't necessarily think his Cameron's parents have a lack of respect for you. Rather, I'm sure that they are just struggling with this (which is expected) but are good people at heart.
Having said that, it does not excuse inappropriate or hurtful behavior. Ashley's family, especially her mother, was kind of rude to me for the first while of our relationship. One of the best things that happened was when Ashley sat down with them both and in a polite but firm fashion told them that some of their actions towards me were inappropriate and would not be tolerated. She got the cold shoulder for a while but in the end, things became much better. Perhaps both of you should sit down with them (or write a short letter) expressing how much they hurt you both and asserting the strength of your relationship and that hurtful things will not be tolerated.
T-rex give good advice.
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